04 Apr What is Your Tolerance for Conflict?
Do you have a conflict tolerance level?
Which of the following best encapsulates how you view conflict?
- An annoyance
- Something to ignore or avoid
- Something to be afraid or ashamed of
- An opportunity to assert yourself and advocate for your point of view
- A time to learn from each other and to learn others perspectives
If you pick 5, you fall outside the normal range of responses, or rather not within the majority.
Most people view conflict as an opportunity to fight to get their way or to ignore and hope it goes away. Neither of these responses address the feelings and emotions of the conflict or help us develop better tolerance for conflict.
Most of us tolerate something if we know the outcome will be to our advantage, if it doesn’t take too long or cause much trouble we will be okay. In my latest book hurt, upset, angry, frustrated, I discuss the biology of conflict and how we can use this knowledge to our advantage to gain a higher conflict tolerance level.
When we have an increased tolerance for conflict we tend respond more appropriately to everyday conflicts that arises.
We recognize early and engage in a way that will address our needs and inform the other party of why we make the choices we have with respect and compassion for their own choices.
When our values are challenged, boundaries are breached,or needs go unmet, we experience strong upset that if we don’t have the right interpersonal skills we will be more open to collaboration.
Look at your responses to the conflicts in your life are you able to separate your hurt, upset, anger or frustrations from the actual conflict issues?
Sometimes its not easy to address conflict without getting some professional help. Do not be like a lot of people show cheat themselves from getting the emotional and mental support for a tough conflict situation.
Do some research to learn what may be out there and who could best help you based on the type of issues you are facing.
I run the Mastery Coaching session weekly that provides guidance and support to deal with conflict. You can attend one session or more to work on your skills and competencies for conflict management.
​To Your Wellness,
Joyce Odidison
Author Profile
- Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Speaker, Author, and the world’s leading expert on Interpersonal Wellness Competency Mindset teaching. Joyce is President & CEO of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. as well as founder and host of the Annual Global Workplace Wellness Summit. Joyce has authored five books and is also a Certified Coach Training Director and Founder of Coach Velocity School of Coaching. Joyce is a C-Suite level workplace wellness expert and trainer, working for over 24 years with governments, the private sector, non-profits, and post-secondary institutions struggling with difficult work relationships or stressful situations. She is host of the What’s Happening at Work podcast. Joyce can be reached at e-mail: www.joyceodidison.com or phone 1 877 999-9591 www.interpersonalwellness.com
